PreMarital Contracts

Beginnings are important especially when it comes to your most significant relationships. Can you imagine if, at the start(ish) of a relationship you asked yourself what kind of partnership are you looking for? How do you want to feel? What needs would you need satisfied? 

By bringing your own consciousness to the table, you aren’t waiting for things to happen accidentally but you are being proactive in choosing your needs. 

Of course there will always be an element of organic experiences that a relationship will enjoy. 

Things like shared adventures, shared meaning to your life and joint experiences, values create deep bonding and a level of understanding that allows the couple to work towards a common intention for their life.  

On top the fundamentals it’s vital to talk about sex, money, children, beliefs systems, raising children and conflict resolution. 

Taking some time to reflect on what it means to live in companionship with another is so important to the health and quality of your relationship. It takes guts and a deep belief in ones self. It means you must transcend the fear that you will lose the other. In the long run this will create greater enlightenment in your unity. 

There will be less turbulence and greater joy.

This requires one thing from you from you, as the individual to do this. Honesty. No hiding. It must come from a desire to want to create a better life, a conscious relationship.

Allow me to introduce to you the idea of creating a relationship contract.

Mark Zuckerberg and his wife Priscilla Chan has one, Sheldon and Amy have one. In fact Sheldon has a room mate agreement with Leonard to prevent small issues taking over the friendship. Both parties being aware of the details of the contract to which there is a consensual agreement. I love this idea so much that yes I got one.

Relationship Contracts are incredible. In fact the Jewish Kattubah and the Islamic Nikh have always encouraged couples to utilise these contracts to talk about the fine print. The just in case. They are prenups. Opportunities for a couple to outline their relationships requirements from financial, conjugal, food, shelter to behavioural for during a marriage, divorce or widowhood. 

Imagine we sleepwalk into coupledom and firefight situations as they arise. Hindsight arrives when the situation is out of control. Things have reached a crescendo where hate is the overwhelming emotion. Allowing things to escalate from”LOVE” to resentment, Lust to contempt is pure suffering. 

Outlining your expectations of each other helps you to understand the unwritten fine print. Who puts the bins out. Lets get those toilet seats dropped. Sharing household duties. Boys nights? Girls nights? Holidays? Christmas? The list is endless. 

I have always loved the idea of being upfront and truthful about who you are and how you perceive your life, warts and all. The longevity of a relationship depends on honesty and a sense of humour. 

Would you like to Book a session with one of our team to create a Relationship Contract?